The phrase sexual repression and expression carries with it power and truth in the balance of opposites. The idea of mean between extremes is a universal principle whether you are talking about sex, the stock market, emotions, politics or weather patterns. There is no loss or gain just a transformation of energy. If you push on a balloon (or a penis in a tight pair of swimming trunks), it bulges out expressing itself in another area. The over all form remains constant but the balloon will take on the shape of the forces placed upon it. This demonstrates the physics principle of conservation of energy. Yes yes conserve your energy, you'll need it for what is cumming next.
So what does physics have to do with sexual repression and expression? Everything. It is a lot more than up and down, in and out, hump and pump. It is the foundation for an equation we'll explore together in the next few paragraphs. Before we begin this journey, I'd ask you to forget everything you have imagined as normal up to this point. Just for the next 3 minutes remove judgment and prejudice, so you can ride with me into the depths of desire to truly experience love making. Ready?
Imagine the most erotic scene, something that will make your sex organs tingle. It may be watching a lady caressing her nipples and stroking her clitoris between her fingers or maybe it is a man sliding his hand up and down his oiled shaft hardening himself for his mounting lover. Let me stop typing for a moment and allow you to find that image of ecstasy for yourself- same sex, different sex, other sex .... Every one of us is different so my description may not tickle your fancy. Take a moment to think about what really turns you on. There is no right or wrong. Simply go into your desire.
Imagine your sexual fantasy scene and feeling the blood rushing to your private parts. You are feeling warm and damp now in those areas. Giving yourself further to this process you may fall so deep into my words, that we are internet love making. Your breathing is changing and this sexual heat is radiating from your loin to the rest of your body. Where does this energy wish to manifest? This sexual tension that we have built together loves an expression. It may be a sexual act with a spouse, boy/girlfriend or if you are alone masturbation (it is the most flexible sex option, with a guarantee of anywhere any time pleasure) Perhaps, it is in the form of a creative energy, art, sport or fitness as a way to express these tensions. Once again our job is not to judge but simply to witness and allow your form to surface.
Sexual desire is an evolutionary intention, strategically placed to ensure the continuity of our species. Because its existence is so basic to survival of humanity, your sexual desire is a good indicator of your will to live and your fulfillment in life. It is also the cemetery for your past trauma and unresolved emotions so knowing and understanding your sex life empowers you in all areas.
Our society is a sexual balloon. If you push on one area, it will bulge in another. The Catholic Church repressing priests ability to have adult sexual relations gave way to the expression of pedophilia. If one parent is shutting down or repressing their sexuality, the other expresses it in the next available outlet, usually an incest with the kids. Societies that repress sex, making it a taboo, have a steamy prostitution underground expression. If there are no humans around and you are living on a farm maybe Bessy the cow ends up being your Friday night expression in an act of bestiality. If you are severely repressed, with many past traumas you may create a business where you can express (watch or create) all the forms. Without judgment but remaining true to our mantra, what is repressed gets expressed in another form.
The statistics in these sexual variants are not reliable as there is much that will go unreported under the shadows of shame and in the fears of reprimand. In fact it is our prejudice, judgments, punishments that perpetuate many of these sexual societal issues!
Alfred Kinsey's comprehensive (though dated) studies of sexuality are some of the only data we have on bestiality. After conducting 6000 exhaustive interviews with participants on their sexual histories, Kinsey published his findings in 1953, which included this data on zoophilia:
The 50/50 rule is generally a best guess when dealing with any construct of matter. Half will and half won't. In a marriage 50% of parents will be repressed and find alternate ways to express, usually with the kids in some form of incest, masturbation or in an extramarital exchange. Some research suggests 44% of kids are involved in incest. I imagine the true number to be 50% and divide by two, 25% into females and 25% males. It is not bad or good, right or wrong it is simply physics in the law of conservation of energy and business principles of supply and demand.
The problem and concern arises because of informed consent. Can a child or an animal give informed consent? If you are forcing an act, upon another who is not able to give consent then it violates human and animal rights. There is another universal principle called fair exchange. This is necessary to maintain a balance in your body, in your mind, in your family, in your work, in your community and in your life. True love making is a give and take between consenting parties.
Human behaviorist, Dr. John Demartini has done noble prize worthy work in this area. The Demartini Method is a psychological science that reveals the equation of repress (subconscious) and express (conscious). Generations of imbalance can be addressed in a few hours. Understanding this equation, humbling yourself to an eternally balanced Divine Matrix, empowers you to see the perfection in all that is (no matter what it may be) and allows you to transform and create the life you love.
"Being you, liberates me to be me!"
Dr. Dena Churchill- International Speaker, Author, Health Innovator & Wellness Astrologer.