September 10th, 2014

I'm not trying to be sexy. It is just the way I express myself when I move around. Elvis Presley.

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What men find sexy about women may surprise you.  Apparently, the hot red stilettos, toned calve muscles and long legs gets you attention but the confidence in carrying it gives you your sexy advantage.   In a recent survey by the dating site, E-harmony, a woman's playfulness; her smile; and her affectionate, grateful, fearless demeanor were some of the traits men found sexy.  My own social media survey added to this sexy list; confidence (as seen in her eye contact, her posture, her body movements), her health and vitality, authenticity and purpose.  In both surveys, the physical traits were hardly even mentioned.  Men seem to be attracted towards an energy, a posture and a life philosophy more than a particular trait. 

The greatest news is that sexy is a mindset not a body type thus can be coached and changed as you wish.  You don't need bigger lips, hips or breasts to doctor your sexy! 

Comfort, color and caress are a few sexy remedies. Comfort not only in your clothes but also in your own skin.  The sexy factor is directly proportional to how authentic you are to your own loves and desires.  A mask may be mysterious initially but lasting sexy is seeing you naked- mind, body and soul!  Shoes, hose, skirt, and lingerie must not only enhance your features but allow you to move with comfort and ease.  If I can't run to catch a taxi in a pair of heels and balance on one foot and do a side kick,  I generally don't buy them :)  Comfort allows your confident, playful, enthusiastic self to emerge, showing just enough skin and heart to stimulate the imagination.

Color is a wavelength of energy and is a seasoned personal pallet within itself.   Various studies have been conducted exploring color psychology and color therapy. Many of them have found that the colors you wear actually effect how others perceive how attractive you are.  Red has been portraying the color of love for centuries and black gives you an instant sense of mystery and sophistication. Colors provoke emotions and feelings so in combination hues that make your skin, eyes and hair glow, you envelope the Goddess.  Take note in which colors you receive compliments upon then scan the retail stores for this color when shopping for your sexy outfit that will highlight your best features. 

Caress yourself and love YOU - stroke your skin tenderly, play with your hair, massage your body, soak in scents you love.  If you can't smile and kiss yourself in the mirror before you go out, you need to pamper yourself more.  Lighten up your mood with music, be playful, sing and dance and be grateful for the beautiful body, mind and heart you have been gifted.  The more love and attention you give yourself, the more that is attracted to you.  If you are not exactly what you love, then work on it and make it so.  Specific techniques such as Mayan abdominal massage and pelvic floor/vaginal massage help a woman connect to the feminine power of the uterus and root chakra while allowing her to access the strength and tone of the structures that hold the womb of her creativity and sexual energy.  During a candle lit bath of sweet smelling oils or salts, use this time to connect, caress and massage all your parts, increasing blood flow, decreasing tissue tension and awakening your sexy.





Yoga Goddess pose to help tone your lips, hips and breasts naturally.   Pucker up with the largest lips you can as you squat and lift your heart to the heavens :) 
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pB1TzUUnfQM
(Practice walking with a book on your head is another goddess posture that has been used for centuries to enhance health, power, confidence and strength) 

Mayan uterine massage intro view here: