It was an early morning rise, sunrise that is. The birds are singing and the sunlight is peeking through the window heralding the new day. He embraces her with strong soft arms and gripping her hips firmly slides her buttocks onto his lap, kisses her gently on the neck and whispers "I love you into her ear"...
Aren't we all in love with love? Lynn Mactaggart's book, The Bond, suggests the urge to connect with others is greater than the desire for food or sex. To have the emotional bond and the sex is combining two powerful love-making fundamental desires. Who wouldn't love to have 5 orgasms before breakfast?
Let's imagine the same morning scenario but we'll add a few extra details. His breath smells of the alcohol he has had the night before, there is a residue of an unfamiliar cologne or perfume on his neck and his fatigue shows in the lack of firmness of his manly parts. Does this change your image? Will this effect your orgasm?
The recent apparent hacking of the Ashley Madison dating site, liberating 37 million of its e-mail users tells us that this relationship longing is a perceived void from which businesses are making billions. 37 million people, more than the population of Canada, are paying to chat, date or somehow connect with other single or married acting single individuals! Recently, the hackers of this site redirected e-mails to a pornography sex site, likely seeing it as an opportunity to offer an up-sell of additional services. For centuries, selling or trading sex has been apart of almost every culture so this idea in itself is not new but our evolution to the internet has widen the market and allowed for less accountability.
When does this age old sex business become harmful to our society and inhibit our growth? There are two criterion for a sustainable business: 1. Establish a need 2. Create a trusted affordable solution. In his ground-breaking book, Good to Great, Jim Collins reveals the philosophy of inspiration over intimidation in business management. Inspiration develops a solid platform and trust that keeps the customers returning. The dating/sex business when following these principles of trust, transparency and inspiration maybe providing a solution to the lonely hearts club. However, having your e-mail address shared without informed consent and being unable to unsubscribe, paints a picture of disregard for privacy and shows a disrespect that will likely travel down into the bowels of the company. These are usually the establishments in which the health, age and lifestyle of their employees is also unimportant. Disregard for human rights and freedoms invites the ideas of sex trades and sex slaves. The mental and physical pain of sexual exploitation, according to experts, is in part what keeps victims tethered to their pimps, porn kings and locked into a dreadful life. Companies in which money is the highest value may not be concerned with human rights and freedoms but if they knew they could move from BAD to GREAT, making more money with inspiration instead of intimidation and humiliation, do you think they would change their business model? Is it possible to transform the industry with information and education?
The most effective solution to this need for human bonding is a real life transparent connection. There is no substitute for the energy exchange in touch, speech and eye contact. If you are looking to meet someone, enlist in activities that bring you joy, socializing with others that have similar interests master baits your heart. Orgasm begins in your mind when you feel a desire for your loved one. This desire, physical excitation and chemical release is what ultimately creates the pleasurable rhythmical contractions of the pelvic floor and sex organs, then the climax and tension release we know as orgasm. Secrets to orgasm are simply to keep your body and mind healthy; practice perfecting the art by knowing what you like sexually through previous experience or masturbation and communicating your desires effectively to your partner. Check out this link titled the 12 Secrets to Orgasm for additional details. http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20513013,00.html.
Excitation comes as you tantalize the five senses but when the heart has a pure intention to serve them as they are serving you, loving-making becomes a spiritual experience and extends far beyond the bedroom.
The orgasm within a loving consensual relationship is very different from the quick mental explosion effect of pornography. The over stimulation of our brain's reward cascade creates a fight or flight response when using pornography alone without the physical stimulation of a partner. Using technology, you may be creating porn addiction and causing damage to your real time love-life, so feed the right wolf. http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2010/11/brain-chemicals-in-healthy-sexual-act/.
Five orgasms before breakfast is a wonderful way to wake up and connect with your partner but what happens after breakfast to feed your body, mind and spirit?
* Assuming a female perspective in a heterosexual couple in this example but similar scenario may apply to a male perspective in a heterosexual relationship or to a same sex couple.
Dr. Dena Churchill- International Speaker, Author, Health Innovator & Wellness Astrologer.